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The Scary Truth About Guys in Groups
The bedraggled-looking house at 610 North Buchanan Boulevard in Durham, North Carolina, was reportedly once known as one of Duke University's top party venues. Part of that stemmed from the fact that it was home to three members of the Duke lacrosse team, which was known for being able to get the hottest girls on campus to come to its wild bashes. Then came the night of March 13. The boozefest that evening was different — a guys-only event, with two exceptions: a pair of exotic dancers hired to entertain a bunch of lacrosse players on spring break.
Most people have heard the allegations of what happened that night. One of the strippers, a 27-year-old single mother and student at a university across town, later said that after her performance, three members of the team locked her in a bathroom and sexually assaulted her. At press time, three men — who all claim innocence — have been indicted on rape charges and are facing a criminal trial. Some legal experts have expressed doubts the case will hold, but the prosecutor appears determined to go to trial.
History of Violence
The Duke incident quickly became nightly news and tabloid fodder because it involved privileged, upper-middle-class students at an elite university. But it's far from the first time a group of young men — students, athletes, frat members — have (allegedly) assaulted a woman together. The last few decades are littered with examples of boys in packs doing really bad things they might never do on their own.
In July, a young girl in Fresno, California, went to a party full of prospective Fresno City College football players and was allegedly sexually assaulted by 10 or more men. The two suspects who have been arrested so far have pleaded not guilty. In New York City, a woman who was sexually assaulted in a public park in 2002 by five men later described the attackers as "a pack of wild wolves in search of their prey." All five pleaded guilty to first-degree rape. And last year, four men and one juvenile were charged with raping a 15-year-old girl while she was babysitting; the alleged ringleader was her former boyfriend. (The four adults pleaded guilty to statutory rape, while the juvenile's case is still pending.)
The evidence is more than anecdotal: A study of 46 college gang rapes from 1983 to 1993 found that 50 percent were committed by team athletes, 35 percent by fraternity members, and 15 percent by others, according to Chris O'Sullivan, Ph.D., senior research associate at Safe Horizon, a victim-assistance organization. What happens when men get together that can turn them from regular guys into predators?
Psychology of the Pack
Clearly, not all gang rapists are deep-dyed bad guys. Experts say many are fairly normal guys who find themselves challenged by other males in a way they can't resist, and egged on by one or two guys who have strong, aggressive, and often hostile personalities.
In fact, abhorrent group behavior actually starts in an innocent place: male bonding. You've seen what happens when a bunch of guys get together: Everything instantly becomes louder, rowdier, more competitive — the male way of connecting with each other. But at a certain point, guys aren't performing for a woman's attention anymore, say sex-crimes experts, they're performing for each other...and that's when things can get dangerous.
Pick up the November 2006 issue of Cosmo, on newsstands now, and turn to page 114 to read the rest of this story.
Click here to learn how you can protect yourself from scary guy groups.
How to Protect Yourself from Scary Guy Groups
There are common elements in a pack attack, say experts. Follow the rules below to avoid being a victim.
Know your drinks: Date-rate drugs are a frequent ingredient of gang rape, so: never drink from a punch bowl; always open your own can or bottle, or get a drink directly from a bartender (never from the guy who's hitting on you); never set your drink down while dancing or going to the bathroom and pick it up later.
Recognize the bad guys: Not every insensitive jerk is a rapist, but be very wary of a guy who encourages you to drink a lot without drinking much himself; gets very intimate very quickly; pushes your physical boundaries, getting touchy-feely too fast; talks over you, interrupts you, or belittles you.
Trust your instincts: Many survivors of sexual violence had a gut feeling that something wasn't right: How much alcohol have I had? How come I'm alone all of a sudden? Listen to that inner voice and don't worry that you might be overreacting or being rude.
Fight back: Pack rapists, especially in a party situation, are looking for someone who won't resist, and are less likely to be killers. So unless there are weapons involved, scream, kick, scratch, do whatever it takes to get away or attract attention.
Sources: Nina Cummings, victims' advocate, Cornell University; Donna Lisker, Ph.D., director of the women's center, Duke University
OK, y'all. Here is the article as seen on the Cosmopolitan website. Please note where they stopped in the text on the site versus where the article went after this. Also note what they have added to the article ("How To Protect Yourself" and "Related Links" - both of which are pasted at the bottom of this article here). Finally, note what the topic section is called.
LOVE & LUST
SEX ARTICLES
The Scary Truth About Guys in Groups
The bedraggled-looking house at 610 North Buchanan Boulevard in Durham, North Carolina, was reportedly once known as one of Duke University's top party venues. Part of that stemmed from the fact that it was home to three members of the Duke lacrosse team, which was known for being able to get the hottest girls on campus to come to its wild bashes. Then came the night of March 13. The boozefest that evening was different — a guys-only event, with two exceptions: a pair of exotic dancers hired to entertain a bunch of lacrosse players on spring break.
Most people have heard the allegations of what happened that night. One of the strippers, a 27-year-old single mother and student at a university across town, later said that after her performance, three members of the team locked her in a bathroom and sexually assaulted her. At press time, three men — who all claim innocence — have been indicted on rape charges and are facing a criminal trial. Some legal experts have expressed doubts the case will hold, but the prosecutor appears determined to go to trial.
History of Violence
The Duke incident quickly became nightly news and tabloid fodder because it involved privileged, upper-middle-class students at an elite university. But it's far from the first time a group of young men — students, athletes, frat members — have (allegedly) assaulted a woman together. The last few decades are littered with examples of boys in packs doing really bad things they might never do on their own.
In July, a young girl in Fresno, California, went to a party full of prospective Fresno City College football players and was allegedly sexually assaulted by 10 or more men. The two suspects who have been arrested so far have pleaded not guilty. In New York City, a woman who was sexually assaulted in a public park in 2002 by five men later described the attackers as "a pack of wild wolves in search of their prey." All five pleaded guilty to first-degree rape. And last year, four men and one juvenile were charged with raping a 15-year-old girl while she was babysitting; the alleged ringleader was her former boyfriend. (The four adults pleaded guilty to statutory rape, while the juvenile's case is still pending.)
The evidence is more than anecdotal: A study of 46 college gang rapes from 1983 to 1993 found that 50 percent were committed by team athletes, 35 percent by fraternity members, and 15 percent by others, according to Chris O'Sullivan, Ph.D., senior research associate at Safe Horizon, a victim-assistance organization. What happens when men get together that can turn them from regular guys into predators?
Psychology of the Pack
Clearly, not all gang rapists are deep-dyed bad guys. Experts say many are fairly normal guys who find themselves challenged by other males in a way they can't resist, and egged on by one or two guys who have strong, aggressive, and often hostile personalities.
In fact, abhorrent group behavior actually starts in an innocent place: male bonding. You've seen what happens when a bunch of guys get together: Everything instantly becomes louder, rowdier, more competitive — the male way of connecting with each other. But at a certain point, guys aren't performing for a woman's attention anymore, say sex-crimes experts, they're performing for each other...and that's when things can get dangerous.
Pick up the November 2006 issue of Cosmo, on newsstands now, and turn to page 114 to read the rest of this story.
Click here to learn how you can protect yourself from scary guy groups.
How to Protect Yourself from Scary Guy Groups
There are common elements in a pack attack, say experts. Follow the rules below to avoid being a victim.
Know your drinks: Date-rate drugs are a frequent ingredient of gang rape, so: never drink from a punch bowl; always open your own can or bottle, or get a drink directly from a bartender (never from the guy who's hitting on you); never set your drink down while dancing or going to the bathroom and pick it up later.
Recognize the bad guys: Not every insensitive jerk is a rapist, but be very wary of a guy who encourages you to drink a lot without drinking much himself; gets very intimate very quickly; pushes your physical boundaries, getting touchy-feely too fast; talks over you, interrupts you, or belittles you.
Trust your instincts: Many survivors of sexual violence had a gut feeling that something wasn't right: How much alcohol have I had? How come I'm alone all of a sudden? Listen to that inner voice and don't worry that you might be overreacting or being rude.
Fight back: Pack rapists, especially in a party situation, are looking for someone who won't resist, and are less likely to be killers. So unless there are weapons involved, scream, kick, scratch, do whatever it takes to get away or attract attention.
Sources: Nina Cummings, victims' advocate, Cornell University; Donna Lisker, Ph.D., director of the women's center, Duke University
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